and Why Men Vote Conservative
As a single father of two young boys, sports is an integral part of our lives. I have always felt kids of all shapes, sizes, gender or backgrounds should participate in sports. Beyond the obvious benefits physically; sports have a lifetime of benefits that stretch beyond the hope my boys may play in the NHL. Little league sports teach commitment, responsibility, resilience, and grit. The joy of winning and sadness of losing is life beyond that Saturday morning battle.
On one particular evening, I was assisting my seven-year-old in the locker room. He’s at an age where he’s expected to put on all his equipment, and “daddy” will tie his skates. As I’m tugging on those laces, I notice one of his teammates is having a tough time with mom. Crying, resistant, and angry; the young boy will not get ready for practice. The mother tries her best in a very uncomfortable situation to calm him and assist in dressing. The child would have none of that and begins punching her in the face; just pummeling her and then pulls her hair. The mother, in obvious pain and embarrassment, runs out of the locker room crying and writhing in pain. Previous to her exit, the locker room was down to me and my son, the coach, and his son. Stunned; everyone got silent and froze like penguins in antartica; except for me. I stood up, trying to control my anger, walked across the locker room, got on my knees, and looked that young boy in the eyes. Sternly and directly, I told that boy: “You do not punch your mother. You do not pull her hair! When she comes back in here, you tell her you’re sorry. Give her a big hug and tell her how much you love her!”
Little league sports teach a load of lifetime benefits.
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I then finished with my child and proceeded to get him on the ice. Before I left, I stopped at this dysregulated young boy, whispered in his ear: “You got this!” and gave him a fist pump.
A couple days later, my ex-wife calls me telling me how upset this mother is over the behavior of her son at hockey. My ex-wife and this distraught mother have become close “hockey moms” and the only 2 divorced mothers in our entire hockey program. How there’s a 50% divorce rate in this country? I never see it. Anyways, they cry on each other’s shoulder, discussing and venting over the trials and tribulations of being single and mothers. The big difference? Even though we share our children 50:50. My boys see me almost every other day. I never miss a hockey game; I am an extremely active father.
This mother has been divorced for several years with a dead-beat dad living clear across the country that may see his biological son 3 or 4 days quarterly. She spends most of her paycheck on necessities and what is left-over; on healthcare and psychological needs for her son. Nannies, tudors, and even therapists are a fixture in this boy’s life to overcome the trauma from divorce and living in a fatherless world. All in all, this mother currently employs 5 caregivers. The ironic commonality among all these caregivers: they are all female. Females that pour their heart and soul out for this young child not seeing the success they have hoped for; just like Feminists have not grasped the success they have demanded and/or hoped for.
The ironic commonality among all these caregivers: they are all female. Females that pour their heart and soul out for this young child not seeing the success they have hoped for; just like Feminists have not grasped the success they have demanded and/or hoped for.
I didn’t cross paths with this distraught mother for another 10 days until we met up at a very large pond hockey tourney. I happened to see her across the lake and tracked her down. I felt it necessary to let her know I disciplined her child; out of respect for her and concern for her son.
She indicated to me that she was very anxious to see me again, thinking I would never want her son to be near my boys. “Absolutely not! I’m here for you and your son on or off the ice”. Relieved, her candid response was a big thank you and that she struggles with “little Tommy”; which has been that way all her life. A son who has never had a father-figure in his life with a strong personality to discipline, love, and mentor him.
She was at the point that this 5’1″ mother was actually scared for her safety from a 7-year-old challenged son. Just imagine the harm and injury this boy could inflict at 12, 14 or 16!
I assured her my boys would still interact with Tommy, and I was there to help in any way I could. Now, in the locker room, I tie Tommy’s skates and get him on the ice in an orderly fashion. The effort is easy; I can see the look in this young boy’s glowing eyes with excitement to have a man/father be there like all his teammates!
After knowing of this “locker room” incident, my wife and I had an intense debate. One in which it directly affects our 2 young children with a stark difference to “Tommy”. Even though I am a single father with an excellent co-parenting relationship; my children will never be raised in the detrimental environment of a “fatherless world”. No one will ever convince me otherwise, and statistics will back me up; you can not replace the power of two parents in a child’s upbringing.
Statistics will prove that:
- 24.7 million children are estimated to live without their biological father.
- 84% of homeless families are headed by a woman
- 90% of runaway and homeless children come from fatherless homes
- 85% of children with behavior disorders are from fatherless homes
- Depending on the source, fatherless children are 3 to 20 times more likely to become incarcerated.
The data gets starker and starker as you dig deeper and deeper. Children from father-absent homes are more likely to commit suicide or a crime, become overweight and unhealthy, join a gang, abuse alcohol or drugs, or become a victim of physical, sexual or mental abuse. There is no denying that a fatherless home is a huge detriment to the overall success of a child and our society in general. The Patriarchy, with all it’s verbal abuse and feminist rage; was, is, and will always be a place in society for the benefit of offspring and partners alike.
Are women to blame for this moral decay? No; this is a societal problem. Is Feminism to blame? Not entirely; however, it is absolutely a contributing factor.
According to the dictionary, “ism” is defined as:
- a belief (or system of beliefs) accepted as authoritative; doctrine, dogma, or dogmatic
- a distinctive doctrine, cause, theory, or religion
- manner of action or behavior characteristic of a (specified) person or thing
- prejudice or discrimination on the basis of a (specified) attritube
- adherence to a system or a class of principles
As such, we are all to accept Feminism no different than Communists force Communism, Fascists command Fascism, Atheist urge Atheism, Socialists invoke Socialism, Imperialists vanquish Imperialism or Anarchists demand Anarchism. None of these “ism’s” are commonly accepted and are usually instituted with some level of force; overtly or covertly. Which generally makes all “ism’s” laden with controversy.
Feminism, like any “ism” is Instituted with some level of force;
Whether overtly or covertly.
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Is Feminism any different? Not really. . . Feminism rose out of bitterness and resentment for men and the patriarchy. Now, we as a society are paying the price. Do I believe women deserve equal pay? 100%. Respect? Absolutely. The right to vote, drive a car, and any other basic right a man enjoys? For sure! But not at the expense of men or society in general. If you look at the rise in many of our societal problems this country now endures, it directly correlates to the rise in Feminism. Bitter and resentful women who took their demands beyond equality into equity. Equity that is thievery against the oppressors/men that they accuse of misdeeds; rather than equality where both men and women enjoy the same freedoms, rights and treatment. A “ Fourth Wave” of feminism as many characterize, that has gone too far. Instituted from a small vocal mob of bitter and angry women.
We can also debate about these deadbeat dads and males, which is a legitimate counter-argument; however, I’ve already done that.
For the sake of this analysis, Feminists refuse to acknowledge the power a man and father can provide to the overall success of a family or society in general. The Feminist doctrine states that all men are evil, with every woman vying for gold in the victim Olympics. Olympians that compete as oppressors trying to outdo their counterparts with the “trials and tribulations” of their mis-treatment by oppressive men.
Whether Feminists choose to agree or not, empirical and anecdotal evidence supports my hypothesis that men, just as much women, are integral to the success of our society.
A society in which Feminists have risen from the “annals of a male-dominated dystopia” to assert their power, independence, and bravery. To never fall victim to another man and live a life in which we must revolve around their orbit and succumb to their demands. An orbit in which they have shirked responsibility, commitment, and/or empathy for men, society, and offspring. The result: A society that has actually deteriorated to the dystopia Feminists thought they conquered.
Using all societal, financial, educational, and mental-related data; the rise in Feminism directly correlates to the disturbing outcome of these four factors and even more.
Just a sampling of the data will confirm this in the following:
- Record levels of children born out of wedlock or living in single- parent homes.
- By many measures, divorces are initiated 80% of the time by women.
- The poor are the fastest growing economic class in this country, and by the same token, we have never created this many billionaires in such a short time span.
- Nationally 32% of all school-aged children are proficient in math, reading, or both; 68% are not!
- Record levels of suicide, depression, ADD/ADHD, and other mental disorders.
What we now have is a society in disarray, disfunction, and discomfort that innately forces male and females into their respective camps. Defensive mechanisms by both breeds kick in to protect, and suddenly, we have divided thoughts, motives, and actions.
Women, by nature, are maternally nurturing in their behavior to comfort in times of distress. Men, on the other hand, will turn to their paternal, protective instincts in these times of distress to safeguard and provide for themselves, their partner, and children. As such, Liberal-leaning actions represent females; while Conservative-leaning efforts dominate the male psyche.
Are either measures right or wrong? Not necessarily, the lack of respect, acceptance, or understanding by the opposing camp is! -or- Feminist unwilling to consider the notion that efforts by both genders compliment the overall success of society.
A rallying cry against men.
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Now, many feminists, pundits, and “victims” have proclaimed their disdain for males suddenly voting Conservative while not following lock, stock, and barrel with their Feminist doctrine. Males who have turned to Conservatism that better represent their wants, needs, and desires.
A chasm of differing political ideologies that are only exacerbated by the ever growing culture war we find ourselves in. A war that men feel needs a Conservative arsenal to conquer. Why? Stay tuned for Part 2. . .
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